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Drejka did not weigh the situation rationally - he got carried away with emotion - so did the other, so they both lost. .
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Posted by: LateForLunch ®

09/03/2019, 06:57:27

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If that is not a lesson for our time...

I had a pastor who once said that too many approach correcting the bad behavior of others like warriors instead of chefs. 

That's right! He said that if one focuses on the PURPOSE of confronting people (to get them to change their behavior) one may use either positive, negative or neutral reinforcement. 

Neutral enforcement in that case probably would have been to contact law enforcement (most local cops will respond to complaints like that if they aren't too busy) and let them deal with it. Parking transgressions after all are NOT crimes, they are violations. The cops would likely have asked them to move (and thrown a good scare into them) and Drejka would not have put himself at risk in any way. 

I can't really think of a positive way to approach that - contacting them directly in any way about it would be butting into their business from their POV. 

If some handicapped person were waiting to use the space (if it's possible to know this) maybe speaking up would have been helpful. 

The pastor said trying to inspire people to change is like offering them food - if you don't have the time or the patience to make is edible, there is no sense trying to do it.

What is obvious from a psychological POV is that Drejka was really trying to solve a personal problem - his own strong feelings of anger that someone would (as he saw it) misuse a HC space which should be reserved for those who need it. 

Drejka only approached them to vent his own frustration - then when challenged, felt he had to "defend his honor" (defend the validity of his opinion) to avoid feelings of humiliation. The stronger the push-back from the other, who was no doubt feeling similarly defensive/ashamed that he got caught misbehaving, the stronger Drejka felt he had to defend  himself. 

At this point, adrenaline is pumping through the male principle's bodies. One of the lesser-known effects of adrenaline in the body is that it tends to reduce communication in the brain between the cortex (thinking center) and the mantle/limbic centers (feeling/instinct) so the person is less likely to feel incline to "think things through" but rather, to act rashly. 

By giving in to their emotions both suffered catastrophic loss - one their life, the other their freedom. 

No doubt for both there was a moment of realization (one just before he lost consciousness forever) that what they had done was unnecessary, foolish and absurd. 

Such realizations are best made before the act (in contemplation), not after (in reflection).

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